I reopened by OKCupid account last week, but only because the boyfriend and I had a discussion and wanted to compare questions ( I never did that… turns out we’re 23% ENNEMIES bwahaha). Thing is, OkCupid doesn’t let you shut down your account again for another week, and in the meantime, seeing as I have boobs and it’s an online dating site, I’ve been getting messages.
I read them because I’m a curious person, and it just so happens that quite a few of them are very thought-out, witty and very polite messages. Not even one “hey baby”, which is usually the bread and butter of such places. I’m obviously not interested in any of them, but I’m starting to feel guilty, and not about what you’d think. In fact, when I read these messages, it’s usually in the company of my bf. We have a very transparent relationship and it’s not a trust issue. It’s about how these guys are actually putting time and energy into their messages, and won’t get an answer from me. I almost want to answer and explain myself, since there have been 3 or 4 really well-written responses, and I actually do appreciate the effort of good writing, not to mention actually having taken the time to read my SUPER long profile. I’m debating responding, even though it won’t be in their favor. But really, do I owe a perfect stranger that much?
Because then I think it would start a conversation or something, and I’m just beyond uninterested in that sort of thing. On the other hand, I don’t like the idea of seeming like a total bitch, even towards online strangers, because most of my online friendships (from other sources mind you) are super genuine, and my policy on the internet is to treat people with as much respect as you would in real life.
Or uhm… try to anyway.
I probably won’t answer, but shit, I can definitely understand dudes who get frustrated on dating sites, not only because girls get WAY more messages, and because they never get answers. I don’t wanna perpetuate those stereotypes.